Civility is an attitude that comes from within and is often born from going without. It is the bridge that leads from rudeness to respect.
Although it is intangible, civility is felt. It is identifiable at a soul level. People living in tent villages recognize civility in the form of international aid just like a tormented kid in Grade 7 does when she is finally welcomed into someone’s open heart.
Civility can be heard and spoken or silent and demure. It is the subtle difference between ‘yes’ and ‘yes, please’. It is simultaneously free and priceless, yet it cannot be bought.
With effort it becomes effortless.
There is no formula for civility, but if there were it would include components like kindness, grace, patience and understanding. It is a confident antivenin for toxic behavior ~ at work, at home and at play.
Civility is transparent, non-judgmental and ubiquitous while being proud, humble and understated. We placed it on the back burner while we stirred things up, where it has been quietly simmering, awaiting opportunities to bubble over and seep back into society.
Civility is a calm commitment, not a lofty goal. It matters. It is you. It is me. It is time.
And it’s the civil thing to do.
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